Get off Base. That simple. All of us have a ‘next step’ to take whether it be short term, intermediary, or long term. But when we find ourselves stalling for whatever reason (lethargy, fear, anger, resentment, comfort, etc) others are short changed. Think about baseball. If the runs (hits instead of outs) are coming in and someone does not move off the base-the play cannot be finished. You cannot win a game without scoring.
By now, you are shrugging your shoulders saying Retta-we get it, we know it.
Okay, so let me run a list of things we have not taking our next steps on:
- Becoming active
- Making time for others
- Mending a broken relationship
- Letting go of toxic partners, friends, jobs, or relatives
- That vacation spot you talk up all the time
- The hobby you envy others for doing
- Counseling (self or group/family/couples)
- Home repairs
- Cleaning up (you fill in the blank)
- Speaking up for self
Clearly, this is not an exhaustive list but it covers enough items that we put off or delay.
Look over this list or yet-get bold and create your own list.
Now, write down the REAL reason you have not done it. I mean small steps. What would it look like to start. What mentally, emotionally, and physically stops you from starting, maintaining, or completing any task or step you have not made thus far. When you get honest (ie don’t lie to yourself) about what is really holding you back-you can begin to reclaim your mojo. I am currently working on this especially when it comes to relationships. I’m learning how to address without blame. Find my words without shame. It’s tough. It’s easy to pout, throw tantrums, point fingers, and run away from the pain. It’s tough apologizing even when you’re right. It’s hard to swallow commentary for the sake of getting to the root of an issue. But it’s also rewarding reconciling or finding peace with letting go if there’s nothing left you can do-once you have found the cohounas to get off base and take your next steps.
I leave it to you all to dig deep this week. Find an accountability person/partner. List 1 or 2 things you really want to see through-and get off the base.