The past year has been filled with challenges and observations involving my wonderful personality.
See, I classify as a thinker (ESTJ/ENTJ). I think a mile a minute and one of my strengths is the ability to process information rapidly and form a decision in a short amount of time. The downside to such a marvelous strength: haste.
In these last few months, I have developed the inner strength to slow down my pace. In a slower mind state, I am able to understand how quick decisions made on pieces of information (versus the whole pie) could have hurt me in business and relationships.
On a spiritual and mental health level, I was finally able to do some root cause digging in the wee of the morning recently and here is what I discovered.
- Haste is a surface response and defense mechanism for fear and shame
- Quick action and thoughts allow me to numb, freeze, and remedy before I can feel hurt
- Quick reaction allows me to ward off any perceived attacks or moments of vulnerability
- Haste in my life is typically triggered by passivity, dismissal, uncertainty, disrespect, or being ignored
- Makes me thing of Cognitive behavior and REBT, critical that I reflect for validity and truth versus irrational thoughts
- As I dig deeper, the need to make quick decisions or assumptions allows me to feel in control (without control, vulnerability can raise its head)
- Hasty decisions never have an upside
- In haste, I can easily be perceived as not listening or being impatient
- In haste, I can arrive at the wrong interpretation due to not reflecting for meaning
As I wrestled through this map, It became clearer to me that some of my current circumstances are a result of haste. This is my mountain journey towards holistic living that I must make strides in order to sustain the success towards wellness that I have begun. Haste leaves everyone involved with the short end of the stick, there are no winners.
So, now that I shared my root cause journey, will you share yours?
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